From a family therapist, two amazingly effective techniques for getting past long-standing disputes. By Evan Imber-Black, Ph.D., Good Housekeeping Mag. January 2011
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When Carrie and Jim first consulted me about the chronic unhappiness in their marriage, I saw something familiar from my 35 years as a family therapist — a couple whose relationship careened from explosive, recurring arguments to silence and distance. Jim thought things never went his way; Carrie felt her husband always prevailed. Problems went unsolved, sometimes for years. The children suffered because of their parents’ frequent arguments over seemingly petty matters — not just the morning routine, but also homework, chores, bedtime, and more. Read entire article
March 26th, 2012 at 8:47 am
It’s a fine balance between playing up the romance and giving him enough space. I’d say don’t work on the communication until you work on the romance. Otherwise, it will be seen as nagging!